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Female Self Pleasuring
Great female self pleasuring tips for women
What is female self pleasuring? Why do women need self pleasuring?
Do Men Need Self Pleasuring? Is there anything like self pleasuring for men? What does the bible say about 
acts like female self pleasuring? What is Bad about Self-pleasuring?
Self Pleasuring for Men
E. J Davis in his article – Female Self Pleasuring Tips for the Adventurous Woman said that men have sex organs that are readily available for self pleasure by stroking and stimulating any time of the day but the women have to contribe to entice their clitoris out of hiding before making it available for pleasuring. according to Davis, one of the most common female pleasuring tips is the use of sex toys and gadgets.
What is male or female self pleasuring?
Self pleasuring in both male and females (women) involves the stroking and stimulation of the male or female sex organ for sexual gratifications.
Jolan Chang in his book “the Tao of the loving couple” noted that human beings are able to make love more frequently and more sensuously than perhaps any other animal. Yet most are often disappointed after lovemaking because most are like owners of a precious Stradivarius violin that we have never learned to play.
According to Rebecca Adams, who writes for www.tantric-relationships.com – Tantric touch and sensuality are part of the concept of Tantra. And in case you didn’t know Tantra is an ancient Indian philosophy in which mind, body and soul are united to experience maximum pleasure, sensuality, bliss fulfillment and intimacy. The heart of the philosophy is to connect with your self, with your lover and with the universe it’s self. A magnificent goal through which to experience limitless expression.
Maya Silverman in his article - Female Self Pleasuring – How to Use Tantric Touch for Going Solo Before we can experience sensuality, touch and pleasure with a lover, it is important that every woman learns to explore her body, to pleasure it, and to appreciate it.
Maya also encourgaed ladies to get started by asking a few questions:
1. Have you experienced female self pleasuring? Do you have reservations?
2. Are you aware of the sensual sensations of your body?
3. Are you aware of the emotional feelings associated with your body? Your sexuality? Sexual power?
4. Do you know what words, actions, touches that give you more pleasure?
5. Do you know what things relax you, your mind and body? Is it food, music, candles, the feelings of silk on your soft skin?
So how do you develop your ‘female self pleasuring’ potentional?
Maya Silverman also gave 8 tips/guides on how to Nurture erotic relationship with female self pleasuring. Below are the 8 tips/guides -
1. Set the mood, create the scene. From the answers to the questions, prepare your most ideal environment, i.e. one which helps you to relax, enhance your senses and sensuality.
Think music, lighting, fragrance, cushions, oils, toys, clothing – or lack of!
2. Relax mind, body and soul. Have a slow luxurious soak, or give yourself a massage.
3. Slowly begin touching your self (leaving the genitals until the end). Stroke, caress, and admire your body – your hands, legs, stomach.
Some women feel uncomfortable admiring themselves and their bodies. If any such feels come up just note them and let them go. Don’t stop and analyse, just continue touching and pleasuring your body, and make sure your last thought or feeling is a positive one.
4. Feel the energy begin to flow around the body. Feel your skin start to tingle, your breathing deepen.
5. Now start to stroke and caress your breasts, touching them slowly in admiration. Stroke your nipples, feel the skin on the breasts tingle and the energy flow around them.
6. After at least 20minutes of body sensual touching, you can proceed to the intimate areas. Lightly caress your yoni (the tantric word for Vagina which means sacred space), clit, lips.
And any area you wish to explore!
If you experience waves of intense pleasure and emotion (negative or positive) simply note them, breathe slowly and deeply and let these feelings go. Always end on a positive thought and feeling. Continue with your female self pleasuring.
7. Explore your inner erotic beauty by inserting a finger slowly into your yoni – just to within an inch or two initially. Note the physical and sensual sensations – the heat, moisture, and textures. Insert another finger if you’re comfortable. Explore your yoni, g-spot, vary your touch, and drape a lovely silk scarf over the area. Tease your clitoris, starting at the base of the clit and moving towards the head.
(If indulging in intimate massage – make sure you use organic, cold-presses virgin oils such as almond, olive and sesame. Do not use essential oils in any form – on or near the genitals).
8. Allow the powerful erotic and sensual sensations to build and flow in waves throughout the body. Bring yourself close to climax, then slow down breathe deeply and start again. Do this a number of times to allow you to be in a state of arousal and pleasure for good amount of time.
www.lovelifeplus.com.au presented 13 sensible reasons why you should spend precious time and energy on what may appear to be frivolous, threatening, wickedly self-indulgent pleasures:
1. Self-pleasuring is the single most important thing you can do to become a truly great lover
You learn: what most turns you on, what makes you feel less inhibited, what feels good, how long you like to be stimulated, how sensitive your sexual bits are, the best way for you to reach orgasm etc.
2. Self-pleasuring makes you feel sexy
Thinking about sex makes you feel sexy; preparing to have sex makes you feel sexy; knowing and appreciating your body makes you feel sexy. The more pleasure you get the more you want. The more you learn to enjoy, the more you can handle.
3. Self-pleasuring puts you in touch with your body
Most of the time, we ignore our bodies. A luxurious session of self-play can help you focus attention on the sensations of your skin, muscles and erogenous zones. You can reclaim the joy of being alive and having a body that was made for pleasure.
4. Self-pleasuring strengthens and increases the flexibility of your love muscle
Having strong and flexible pelvic muscles is crucial to great sex. In women, the pubococcygeus muscle is the main love muscle – it’s the one that contracts during orgasm. Conversely, the increased blood supply and toning contractions of orgasm vitalize the muscle. You can exercise these muscles during self-pleasuring.
5. Self-pleasuring teaches you how to have orgasms – easily and quickly
Many women have never had an orgasm with or without a partner. Some are not sure if they have or not. The truth is once you learn how and where your body needs to be stimulated to have an orgasm, you can be in charge and have them any time you want. You can try out all kinds of fun things in complete privacy.
6. Self-pleasuring puts you in control of your own pleasure
When you know your own body and its sexual responses you can control whether, when and how to have your orgasm – with or without a partner.
7. Self-pleasuring leads to self-confidence in all areas of life
When you know how to turn yourself on and realise that you can do so anytime without depending on anyone else, you will gain a tremendous sense of self-control and self-confidence. This surety in yourself spreads to other areas of your life.
You can become an asset to the rest of the world when you’re happy, strong and fulfilled. And you know it !!!
8. Self-pleasuring is the key to overcoming sexual guilt and self-repression
Our bodies love to be stroked and caressed. They thrive on it. If deprived of physical affection they can become ill. Finding out that self-pleasuring is a natural and beautiful function, something that makes you feel good about yourself and more loving to those around you, frees you of all that guilt you may be carrying around.
You will be able to express your sexuality and your true self more freely – and with your lucky lover. You can start enjoying sex more and regretting it less.
9. Self-pleasuring promotes health, well-being and energy
Your sex muscles are not isolated. Healthy well-toned pelvic muscles lead to healthy well-toned stomach and leg muscles etc. as well as increased flow of blood and energy. It boosts your energy production and releases endorphins which create a sense of well-being. So for a quick mental and physical pick-me-up that will also build longer-term health – indulge in your favourite form of self-play.
10. Self-pleasuring reduces stress and tension
The intense muscular and emotional release of self-induced orgasm provides a tonic for anxiety, tense muscles, job stress (but be careful doing it at the office!!) or just general frustration. Stress and tension restrict the flow of blood and energy through your body and cause blocks to creativity, good health and joyful living. Self-pleasuring can soothe and release these tensions with the simple touch of a finger!! It can also help you to sleep.
11. Self-pleasuring enhances lovemaking with your lover
If you’re hot, you can’t help but light your lover’s fire! You can bring new vigour to your partner’s body and imagination. You can be much more creative as a lover and can teach your lover all sorts of sizzling new sex tricks. If you’ve learnt to be more deeply intimate with yourself, you can be more intimate with your partner.
12. In the age of HIV/AIDS, self-pleasuring is the ultimate in safe sex
Obviously, when you have sex only with yourself, you are in no danger of catching a sexually transmitted infection from someone else. But even with a partner, self-pleasuring or mutual masturbation with and for each other can be a delightful way to stay safe. Using your hands, vibrators, dildos and even playful fruit, allows you to exchange a lot of loving and fun sexual energy without exchanging body fluids.
13. The joy of self-pleasuring is always available
Morning, evening, between times, while travelling, at the beach, on a plane, when your partner’s sleeping or away, between lovers, after a divorce, when you’re lonely – you can always pleasure yourself.
What does the bible say about Self Pleasure?
According to Holly Franklin, self pleasure has been condemned for a long time. Religion cast it as a sin and although we have moved on as people to become more self aware the stigma attached to self pleasure has stuck with some people still unable to truly feel comfortable about gaining pleasure from their own body.
In fact the sense of guilt is very important to in woman; they refrain from self pleasure more than men and admit to it less easily. This can be a result of repressive mind-sets of certain parents can prompt a later sense of guiltiness. The guilt from self-love can also be credited to fantasies that can go back to childhood that are connected to self pleasure. Which then makes a women feel guilty to revive them when they have a well rewarding sexual life.
Self pleasure isn’t dirty, dishonourable, or hazardous for the health. Unbelievably though self-pleasure has been considered for a long time to be a bad habit which is due to centuries of mis-education and prejudice that have turned something that should be enjoyable into something guilty. The present day translation maintains the disapproving image alive: to masturbate comes from the association of two Latin words, manus (hand) and stuprare (soil, make dirty). Self pleasure doesn’t make you wrong, mad or even give you acne. It can be a sign of emotional problems if it becomes compulsive but it really is something to embrace.
Women can feel guilty about resorting to masturbation as if they stole something from their significant other: if to be fulfilled by self pleasure leads you to decline sex with your partner, obviously there is a predicament. But, in a couple, it is not necessary that we do everything together; must all pleasure be strictly shared? Sports, music and shopping do you have to do them all together? When masturbation isn’t an escape, but a search for a balance, then you both will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without tension. Where as frustration due to an insufficient sexuality might cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.
In fact self pleasure can be practiced in front of a partner. In a lot of couples it proves to be very exciting. It can be the best means to learn how a lover prefers to be stimulated. Each can guide the hand of the partner to show him/her which pressure and which rhythm the woman prefers. Mutual masturbation can really spice up a sex life and open the door to experimentation. One’s desire can be increased by seeing the pleasure of the other. One can also self-love before or during sexual intercourse: it serves then as a prelude, increases the excitement, or allows the couple to perfect sexual intercourse.
The use of self-pleasure open up doors to other possibilities it can reduce the over use of vaginal penetration and bring in a new area of enjoyment and variety into the bedroom. It offers many different ways for women to reach orgasm and other types of pleasure. In women it can bring a force of excitement that is not allowed by either the softness of a vagina nor the obligation to hold on for a certain time.
